WOW! that was fast. Its been such a whirlwind the past few months that it feels weird to be so mellow right now. It was awkward at first to be sitting with not much to do. I’m settling in though. It feels really good to be home.
So now the holidays are here. I’ve gotten just a bit of shopping done. Major stuff mostly. This year i’ve decided to go lite. last year we were really spoiled so this year we are toning it down. I haven’t done as much decorating this year because Jimmy has been working on the house and every time i put something up…he took it down. Turkey butt. But the house looks fabulous. We painted and redid a bit of the front of the house. We put in a new driveway and added a bunch of rock out front. it doesn’t even look like my house.
We’re having a party Saturday night. So not ready for that either. But getting there.
Jimmy and i decided that we are going to NYC for New Years Eve. We’ve been home for so many years with the kids that we thought this is our chance to have a good time away from home. I’m super excited.
Lots of life going on. Can’t wait to share more.
Peach, Love and Glimmery kisses
its been awhile since i blogged. When we got home from vacation life just took over and i didn’t get a free minute. I’m just now getting a chance to sit down and breath.
Vacation was amazing. It was nice to have my dad with us this year. He doesn’t do much with us since he got married so we enjoy the time we get. Him and his wife had a great time. They’ve never done anything like that before. Dad, Kelly, Jimmy and Megan all came on Saturday and we spent the night in Fort Lauderdale. Had a great dinner on the beach and prepped for boarding the ship on Sunday. We were lazy on Sunday so we got a late start. We weren’t going to have enough time to make 2 trips to Miami from Ft. Lauderdale with 9 of us and 16 pieces of luggage. So what do we do? Cram us all into the minivan we rented. OMG…it was freakin hilarious. It was like that Guiness book of world records volkswagon. We did it. I can’t figure out how but holy mack…we did it. My knees were up my nose and i was crammed with the luggage but we made it. The guys at the port were crackin up. I have a picture somewhere…as soon as i find it i’ll share 🙂
ok so back to the cruise…we went to Grand Cayman first. What an incredible place. We got to swim with the sting rays. REAL sting rays!! Right out there in the middle of the Caribbean sea. WOW…words cannot even begin to describe how amazing this was.
Then we spent some great beach time and had a fabulous lunch at Rum Point. YUMMY run too!!
In that shell is a real Conch. We grabbed it right off the bottom of the ocean. AMAZING
Then off to Roatan. I think this was my favorite spot. I would love to go back there and spend a week. Oh Jimmy….i love you honey 🙂 (that always works)
Everyone ziplined in Roatan (except Lexi and me) and then we went to another gorgeous beach.
Ok so this is getting too long so i will do a follow up post tomorrow.
Finally i get to sit down!
the 4 kids and i arrived in Ft. Lauderdale Wednesday morning after a nice easy red eye flight. From there we drove to Orlando and checked into our FABULOUS resort. We stayed in a 3 bedroom, 2 bath villa at Bahama Bay Resort. They stayed and hung out while I went up to Pictures in TIme in Orange Park. Had a great class there and drove back to Orlando. We spent all day Thursday at Disney World. We weren’t impressed. We like our Disney better. Lots more stuff and the rides are longer.
We drove to Cape Coral to teach at a GREAT store…Strawberry Fields. Had the best time.
Back to Miami area on Saturday morning to teach 2 classes at Cherry Blossom studio. Met some awesome girls. I had a fun fun time and i’m really ready for vacation now.
We picked up dad, kelly, and Jimmy on Saturday night. Had a nice dinner. Picked up Megan at 0’dark thirty this morning and….
NOW we’re ready to cruise!!!
Caribbean here we come!!!
oh me oh my! I told my kids they could have facebook accounts so they could play all the silly games. Now they’re addicted. lol Now they’re friending all sorts of people and people of other peoples people. CRAZY kids. I told them only immediate family and a few friends from school and leave it at that. Face book can bring a whole world of drama and weirdos and i don’t want that for them. I really didn’t even want them on facebook at this age but daddy said it would be ok. We’ll see. lol
Summer is here and in full swing 🙂 Kelcee started summer school yesterday and will go 2 days a week. Not so bad. 2-3 days a week are what we call our adventure days. We will set out on adventures to different places we’ve never been or maybe been to before and really liked. Today was supposed to be day 1 of our adventure but daddy ended up with the day off so we postponed today’s adventure until Thursday and everyone (except me) went to the beach. I cleaned bathrooms and vacuumed. Can you feel the joy? It was quiet for a while 🙂 Now they’re back home. Maybe a nice bike ride and then figure out what we will have for dinner. The kids have been each taking a turn cooking from all our new cookbooks. They love doing that. Its been fun to see what each kid comes up with.
We’re all on vacation count down. 28 days. Can’t wait. I’m a little bummed we didn’t stick with the original plan of going to London, Paris, Spain and then cruising the Mediterranean, but that whole ash cloud thing FREAKED me out. So i cancelled it all and re-routed us back to the Caribbean. The kids and i are going 5 days earlier than Jimmy, my dad and step mom and we’re staying in Florida. We’re going to be on our “adventure” and i will also teach at 3 stores. Everyone else flies in Saturday and we board the ship on Sunday for a week. After the cruise we will spend a few days in the Florida Keys. Its crazy making sure everything is in order for 9 people. WOW. But it will be sooo much fun. Can’t wait.
On the scrappy front…classes, classes and more classes. thats all i have to say about that!
<-------------------------------------see them there
peace out homers…enjoy the day <3
I received this in my inbox this morning. Its perfect for today. it hits the nail on the head regarding my 15 soon to be 16 year old daughter. I TOTALLY am this fraidy cat.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV)
I stood on the edge of the cliff, the slender bar clenched in my hands. An old chant came to mind as I glanced past the rocky threshold to the thin strips of smoke wisping above two live volcanoes.
Fraidy cat. Fraidy cat.
I was in El Salvador working with children orphaned by previous civil wars. Kings Castle was their sanctuary, and after a hard days’ work several children and a counselor had pulled me and others up the cliff with stunning views.
“Jump!” they shouted. The children pointed to the volcanic crater below, its depths inviting but very frightening. The children pointed to a circling boat below, trying to assure me. Then, one after another, childr en grabbed the bars and flung themselves away from the cliffs, letting go and plunging into the water below.
I looked over at my fellow team members. One shook her head vigorously. “Uh uh,” she insisted.
I grabbed the bar, noting that my knees were quaking. I closed my eyes, pushed off and swung through the air, screaming when I let go and plunged downward. I hit the icy cold water with a splash. Several children above me shouted and clapped their approval. But I could barely hear them over my own whoops of delight.
I wasn’t afraid of jumping that day nearly as much as I was afraid of the unknown. There were elements that were familiar, like water and diving, but when you toss in heights and volcanoes, it knocked me right out of my comfort zone.
Sometimes parenting teens is like that. When my three children moved from tweens to teens, suddenly things changed. There were familiar elements, but lots of scary new developments like driving, dating, and re quests for freedom. I wanted to cling to the familiar. I’m the boss, so that’s just the way it is. I don’t care if everyone else has a later curfew, yours isn’t changing.
One day I noticed that my oldest daughter, Leslie, had shut me out, and it hurt. She was 16 years old and I couldn’t have been more proud of her. I treasured our relationship, and so was confused by her silence.
I finally found the root of her problem. It was me. I was parenting out of fear.
Fraidy cat. Fraidy cat.
I said no to her, not because of her character or the trust she had earned, but because I feared poor influences, or letting her go and her free-falling. I saw some of the teens that used to frequent our home making life-altering decisions, and it shook me. So I pulled her in closer, tighter. I refused to let go—even an inch.
Though I had worked with thousands of teens over 20 years, I made a huge mistake with my own. I forgot to parent Leslie ba sed on who she was, and what I knew to be true, and allowed fear to dictate our relationship instead.
Worse, I made her feel that she was untrustworthy.
That day I stepped up the scary cliff of parenting a teen and took a second look around. I noted the familiar. Leslie had made good decisions. She was maturing, growing into a woman. She wasn’t perfect, but she tried really hard to do the right thing, not for me, but because of her faith and her own convictions.
Sometimes parenting is scary. Sometimes letting go a little bit at a time feels uncomfortable, but it’s also a key ingredient in shaping our teens into confident adults of character.
But what if they break the trust? Pull the reins back in. Allow them to take responsibility for their mistakes. Then allow them to earn the trust back.
Today Leslie is a 28-year-old married woman, an attorney, and soon-to-be-momma. I wish that I could say that I never faced fear again as a parent, but that simply wouldn’t be true. But I learned to recognize fear for what it is—an ineffective response that distorts reality and clouds the decision making process. Stepping back and looking at the whole picture allowed me to say yes to the opportunities to grow—opportunities for me as a parent, and for my teen.
Dear Lord, help me to see my child clearly today. If I need to set boundaries, help me to set them with love and wisdom. If it is time to encourage my child to grow, to stretch, give me the courage to let go. Thank You for my child’s destiny. Thank You that You have a plan for my teen’s life. I trust in that today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Thanks be to God for answering our prayers today and for helping the truth to shine!
My beautiful daughter Kelcee received the Sacrament of Confirmation last night.
We’re so very proud of her accomplishment.
What a truly special moment.
And here is most of my beautiful family…
you’re a grown adult, with a child, in college.
learn to freakin spell you dumbass.
its COMFORTABLE not comfertable. Its not the first time either. DUH
I receive a daily devotional via email everyday.
This one was PERFECT for today…
22 Apr 2010
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:12-13 (NIV)
Content in any and every situation?
A few years ago my daughter was a state champion gymnast. To see her do gymnastics was like looking at God smile. She was beautiful, graceful, and captivating to watch.
Then one night while practicing for one of the largest tournamen ts she’d ever competed in, she fell. It was a move she’d done hundreds of times with the greatest of ease. But this time something went terribly wrong and that one mistake ended her gymnastic dreams.
We spent a year going from doctor to doctor only to be told she’d never be able to support the weight of her body on her injured shoulder again.
I’ll be honest, this was a tough pill to swallow. Watching a 14 year-old girl wrestle with the fact that her dreams were stripped from her doesn’t exactly lend itself to feelings of contentment. Now, I know in the grand scheme of life, people face much worse situations. But in her world, this was huge.
It was so tempting to want to wallow in the “why” questions and tell God He’d hurt our feelings.
Why did this happen?
Why didn’t You stop this God?
Why weren’t my prayers answered?
Have you ever been there? Have you ever had a big situation in your life where you just couldn’t process why God would a llow this to happen? Or maybe even a small annoyance like losing your keys or having a flat tire on a morning you really needed to be somewhere.
It’s so tempting to wallow in the why.
Asking why is perfectly normal. Asking why isn’t unspiritual. However, if asking this question pushes us farther from God rather than drawing us closer to Him, it is the wrong question.
If asking the why question doesn’t offer hope, what will?
The what question.
In other words: “Now that this is my reality, what am I supposed to do with it?”
Philippians 4:8, “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things” (NIV).
I like to call this verse “directions on where to park my mind.”
And that’s exactly what Ashley has had to do with her dashed gymnastics dreams. Instead of wallowing in why did this happen, I’ve had to help her say:
This is my reality, now what am I going to do with it?
What can I learn from this?
What part of this is for my protection?
What other opportunities could God be providing?
What maturity could God be building into me?
Switching from the why to the what questions paves the road to parking our minds in a much better place.
Is it always easy? Nope.
But is it a way to find a perspective beyond situations where we feel God has allowed something in our lives we don’t understand and we absolutely don’t like? Yes. I pray this helps you today. You can also download a free resource on how to change your why questions into what questions. Just go to my blog, www.LysaTerKeurst.com and click on the button “When God Hurts Your Feelings.”
Dear Lord, I want to process everything I face in life through the filter of Your love. I know You love me. But sometimes it’s just hard to understand the circumstances that come my way. I find myself consumed with trying to figure things out rather than looking for Your perspective and trusting You. Thank You for this new way to look at things. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl by Lysa TerKeurst. This book contains chapters that will help you better process tough times when God hurts your feelings.
Also, consider doing this study in a group setting by ordering Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl DVD set – Contains 6 sessions lasting 15-20 minutes each on one DVD for only $24.99 and a free Leader’s Guide!
How might it be helpful to really talk to God about things that hurt me?
Why is it helpful to ask what now, instead of wallowing in the why questions?
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I’ve finally rearranged, cleaned up and updated my blog.
I changed my banner to the beautiful flowers my wonderful husband gave me for our 13th anniversary.
I don’t want it to be too busy but i want all the information out there. Thats not too much to ask is it?
off to work now…so much to do